Helping Kids Process Information

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Nov 13, 2017 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

At no time in history has a generation of young people been so exposed to the influence of media and been so constantly barraged with content from multiple sources. Adolescents and children receive information from entertainment sources (YouTube, Netflix etc.), sports, Social Media (Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, etc.) and politics/world events (CNN, Fox, Reddit, Vice, The Daily Beast, etc.).  For children, who are busy developing their sense of self, it is easier for them to misinterpret information, become over whelmed and fearful, misled by nefarious sources, and at the very least confused by the mixed messages which exist in the world of media. 

Through informational sources, children begin to formulate their worldview and value system. This process in past generations happened in a much more micro manner. Young people gained information from their families, through interaction with their school and community and via books, articles and conversations. Families sat down around one media source (the family television) and watched a show together and often processed the content as a family unit. Those days are over, according to research by C&R Research, 22 percent of young children (ages 6-9), 60 percent of tweens (ages 10-14), and 84 percent of teens (ages 15-18) own a cell phone. What this means is children are left to gather, interpret, navigate and process information largely on their own.

It is essential that parents create an atmosphere where their children feel comfortable processing all of this information. There are some useful strategies that we teach camp counselors each summer, which are also applicable to parenting that relate to creating an environment where campers feel the freedom, safety and desire to open up about complex feelings and thoughts. Here are a few of the tips.

1.     Create a structured time where you check in with your son. Each night counselors take the time to check in with all of the campers. They use games like High – Low – Hero, where campers offer the high point, low point and a person who was a hero for them that day. Children appreciate structure, it makes them feel safe and if you consistently create a structured way to express their thoughts, they will naturally begin to open up to ideas tangential to the original topic.

2.     Pay attention to invitations to talk about difficult subjects. Children take indirect routes to talk about difficult subjects. As adults, helping children open up about complex issues, we have to be very mindful and aware. When a child says something like, “I don’t like mean people”, they may be opening the door for you to explore the interaction they had recently relating to someone acting mean.

3.     Ask open-ended questions. Avoid asking questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no. When they open up about an interaction they had, ask them how it made them feel or what they thought of that person or instance.

4.     Talk less, listen more. Avoid using your conversation as a time to let your child know what they should or should not be doing/thinking/saying.

5.     Avoid killer statements. A killer statement is any phrase that shuts down their process of exploration. Killer statements can be as blatant as “Well that’s just silly/stupid.” Or as subtle as, “I can’t believe that happened at school”. A statement like the latter is an indicator of your judgment and halts their process. This leads to the next and one of the most important points.

6.     Be careful of letting your reactivity or emotions shut down the conversation.  By creating a space for your child to process information you may learn that they have been exposed to ideas or images, which shock you, or you would prefer them not to have seen or heard. The surest way to halt this process is to react impulsively. If you are feeling this way, take a deep breath and try to continue the conversation with the intent being to help them understand and for you to understand their perceptions. If new boundaries need to be set, which will keep them away from certain content, set them at a different time.

The most present and mindful parent is regularly confronted with the limits they have in sheltering their children from negative influences. By making it a point to not just regulate your child’s media consumption, but to create a space to help them process it, you help them understand and process the complex world they are living in.

We love to hear from parents of the positive behaviors that their son(s) have acquired at camp. Behaviors range from increased responsibility around the house, to an uptick in social awareness, or a willingness to inform parents of successes and struggles they are facing. Many times changes are a result of behaviors that are consistently promoted during the summer. They happen because counselors create an atmosphere where boys see the value in acting in a manner in which they are not accustomed and by repeating the behavior until it becomes habit.

Counselors helping campers make their beds

As the weeks and months pass and the Winnebago summer fades, it is important to continue to recognize and reinforce positive behaviors from campers by employing a few strategies that we use at camp. These interventions can be generalized and used for any behavior that you are hoping to preserve or increase in your child.

 

  1. Counselors are encouraged to focus on positive behaviors instead of problematic behaviors.  Often times, our attention is drawn to what we do not like instead of what we like. Instead of stating, “You used to make your bed every morning when you returned from camp, but you only do it once in a while now.” Wait for your son to make his bed and then let him know you noticed and appreciate it.
  2. Name the behavior; state why it is laudable and why it may be useful in the future. For example, “When your brother fell and hurt himself you immediately checked in with him to make sure he was OK. That was really empathetic of you; you showed that you cared about how he felt. People are really going to want to be your friend because you are so kind.”
  3. Set clear and achievable expectations of your children.In establishing a healthy bunk at camp, counselors are encouraged to have a meeting with all the campers in their bunk. During this meeting they allow the campers to create the rules under which their community will function. By bringing the campers into the process they feel like they are living by their own rules instead of being subjected to external forces.

Overall, it is important to remember that you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Creating an atmosphere where positive behaviors are praised is an excellent strategy in reducing negative behaviors.

The Staff is Stacked!

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Mar 28, 2017 | Uncategorized | 1 Comment

Next week senior Winnebago staff members meet in South Portland to plan for the upcoming Summer of the Path. Annually, we eagerly gather for our spring summit to discuss staff and leadership training, integrate lessons learned from past summers,

Counselor and Role Model

Counselor and Role Model

examine potential new ideas and trends from inside and outside the camp world and prepare for another fun and edifying summer. Our senior leadership team is comprised of dedicated individuals who care deeply about creating an environment where campers are afforded the greatest opportunity to have a fun, enriching, educational and experiential camp experience.

 

This year we are thrilled to count over 80% of returning or alumni staff. With such a veteran and knowledgeable team, we look forward to a dynamic and thought provoking staff training with a sustained focus on creating a high level of intentionality in every facet of camp. Additionally, we welcome back a number of staff returning after a summer or two off who return with added life experiences and a love for Winnebago. We are committed to forming a staff that brings with them a wide variety of talents and experience thereby giving campers opportunities to learn from and appreciate the role models that they are in many different forms.

 

The Summer of the Path will wind through many twists and turns and thankfully, we have experienced staff guides to safely and skillfully lead campers through their adventures. We can’t wait to get the summer started!

2017 Summer Theme

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Mar 6, 2017 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

Each year we choose a theme, which becomes a beacon that guides us through paththe upcoming summer. The theme is woven into staff training, summer t-shirts, campfires and beyond. We look for themes, which have symbolism, versatility and are relatable to the camp experience.

The theme for Winnebago’s 98th summer is The Summer of the Path. We feel this concept works on many levels.  Very literally, our trip program is a center point of the camp experience, campers are taught to navigate paths from their very first summer.  From simple paths that carry Winnebegans up and down mountains, to the rivers that run deep into the Maine wilderness to the Appalachian Trail, the longest contiguous path in the US, we teach campers how to both navigate paths and treat them with respect.

At the same time, we open the treasure trove of metaphors. 250 individuals traveling their own path to Camp Winnebago and beyond, and together we embark upon a path leading us to athletic achievement, refined skills, profound relationships and deep personal insights.

We are excited for The Summer of the Path to lead us on a winding journey full of excitement, joy and tons of fun and trust we will navigate this path with the intentionality and spirit, which has been been a part of Winnebago since 1919.

Not Your Ordinary Job Interview

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Jan 9, 2017 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

Happy New Year from Camp Winnebago where our gaze is beginning to shift towards June 23rd when the buses will roll into camp and disgorge a cadre of gleeful campers marking the beginning of our 98th camp season. cw1_2030

In the next five months, one of our primary focuses is building a staff full of talented, mature and fun loving counselors who will teach, role model, inspire and help create a safety net for campers to explore, grow and enjoy deep friendships. We recruit staff from all over the globe and seek individuals who are excited to work with children, to learn and grow themselves, and have a mastery of skills that they will teach. Their job is multi-faceted; they instruct in a focused activity, live with and supervise campers, and develop healthy relationships with campers that they use as a platform to teach life skills, and inspire campers to take safe risks, which helps promotes camper self-discovery and growth.

Because of the diversity of the counseling job and the importance we place on the staff, our interview process is multi-tiered. We spend hours interviewing candidates, and their references, honing in on who they are as people and what experiences they could bring to the Winnebago community. Counselors often comment on the Winnebago interview process as being unique, deep and thought provoking. The most common candidate response is, “I’ve never had a job interview like that before”.

Because we are not only hiring individuals but also building a community, we seek to understand the values each candidate has incorporated into their life. We explore their family backgrounds, the role models in their lives, and their developing worldview. We seek individuals who have unique perspectives and the ability to articulate their points of view. Because counselors wear many hats, we seek individuals who can teach their activity while owning a broad and diverse set of skills to share with the campers.

Potential staff appreciate the rewarding aspects of working at camp and our investment in their personal growth. S.A.L.T Week (Staff and Leadership Training) is an in-depth and intense training that focuses on personal awareness, child psychology, Winnebago values and many practical tools to help them be wildly successful counselors.

Like all aspects of camp, we strive to bring thoughtfulness and intention to the hiring process. This is of utmost importance so we can feel confident that when those busses roll into Fayette in June, we have created the framework and assembled the talent to help create another unforgettable summer at Camp Winnebago!

Winter Solstice

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Dec 19, 2016 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

The winter solstice is approaching marking the beginning of winter and the shortest days of the year. As we settle into our comfy warm clothes and sip hot cocoa, 2016, a tumultuous year to say the least, begins to fade into the background while 2017 begins to crest the horizon and present itself to us all. The last weeks of December are a time to reflect on the past year and hopefully begin to formulate an intentional plan for the upcoming year.

At Winnebago, we have just completed a series of reunions across the U.S. Campers, counselors and parents came together, thumbed through summer yearbooks, reminisced on the past summer and played games.Thank you to all who attended and those of you who couldn’t make it, know you were in our thoughts and your presence was missed.

In this time where spring flowers and warm weather seem so far away, know that preparation for camp has already begun. A beautiful Maine fall allowed our maintenance crew to make many improvements. We’ve already begun to hear back from last years counselors and it looks like we will have a significant returning group from last summer’s exceptional staff. We have spent the Fall reflecting on the past summer in order to set course towards an exceptional upcoming summer.

Enjoy these last few weeks of 2016, take time to reflect, appreciate those you love and enjoy your winter break and holiday season!

Helping Campers Explore Values

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Nov 10, 2016 | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

Camper Expressing Values

Camper Expressing Values

Camp Winnebago has long been a place where boys are supported by positive role models and encouraged to explore their own developing world-view and personal value systems. For many, our weekly campfires are ground zero for that type of introspection and thought. Each campfire is based on a theme such as truth or friendship or other more playful topics like laughter, which last summer resulted last summer in a camp fire full of funny personal stories and jokes. Other themes can be more complicated such as peace or perseverance.

The purpose of introducing these concepts to campers is multi fold. For younger campers, we introduce these themes and help them understand their meaning and why they may be important. It is an amazing moment when a young camper comes to understand a concept like truth and then hears an older camper discussing the theme and perhaps how it relates to their camp experience while becoming role models for perhaps the first time because of what they think.

On a deeper level, intellectual and verbal exploration of themes gives our older campers a platform to use critical thinking in an abstract manner. Often times, children have an innate understanding of right and wrong but lack a deeper cognitive connection to the value system. By exploring a concept and finding the words to express their beliefs around it, we are helping campers clarify their thoughts. Campers who are not as comfortable with this process often reap the benefits of listening to their peers and internalizing the thoughts of others.

Exploration and verbal expression of values is an essential component that children should use to better understand their own belief system. By helping children become more deeply connected with their sense of right and wrong, we increase the possibility that when they reach a moral crossroad they will act more intentionally and less instinctively. By doing so we increase the chance of wise decisions and the development of a strong and healthy self-concept.

Fall Reunions

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Oct 6, 2016 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

Now that fall is here, leaves burst with color and complete their journey, which began as buds on bare limbs in spring. This spectacular display of fall is a beautiful extension of spring rain and summer sun. At camp, we too make the transition from season to cw1_1957season. Our maintenance crew is busy making improvements around camp and we are happy to announce a number of reunions across the country where campers and counselors will have the opportunity to connect with fellow Winnebegans, see pictures from the summer past and reminisce about the incredible “Summer of Imagination.”  Memories of trips, B&G games and summer swims will rush back to the boys as they receive and pore through their Echoes.

Whether your son attends a reunion or not, we encourage parents to take some time with their camper(s) and reflect on the past summer. Just like it is important to review materials covered in a class at school, the more subtle value based lessons learned at camp are embedded in a summer of friendships and fun. We mention how campers consistently share that they find their most genuine selves at camp and at the end of summer we encourage Winnebagans to reflect back on the lessons learned when they return home. Our reunions give boys a chance to remember and reflect on both the fun and what they learned at camp.

If you have a camper who is unable to attend a reunion, this would be an excellent opportunity for them to write a letter or an email to a camp friend and a chance for parents to help teach their boy(s) the art of sustaining relationships over time and distance. To show your child that thinking of a friend or acquaintance is nice, but taking action by making contact is the work, which gives a relationship the opportunity to deepen. This level of awareness, thoughtfulness and initiative is a useful life skill, which will help your child both socially and professionally.

May you enjoy this beautiful month of October and please keep your eyes open for our Fall newsletter that will arrive in the next few weeks. It will be wonderful to see many of you soon!

Imaginative Play

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Mar 28, 2016 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

“Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning.”

                                                                        -Mr. Rogers

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In a world where, for many, efficiency and specialization has become the perceived pathway to success it is easy to forget that free play in a child’s life is essential in the healthy development of a child as they grow into adolescence and adulthood. Adult lives are scheduled; most of our minutes are accounted for of our life in order to meet the demands of our varied roles; parent, spouse, professional, athlete, philanthropist (the list goes on and on). A natural byproduct of this structure is that our children’s schedule begins to mimic our own. Between school, athletics, homework and other extra-curricular activities, children have very little unstructured time and even less time for unstructured imaginative play.

 

The beauty of children disappearing, into the backyard to build forts and create their own worlds where they imagine, explore and assert themselves is for many a faded memory. So too is the invaluable opportunities such play affords to solve a broad range of problems on their own that results in increased confidence and the development of important critical thinking skills in a broad set of mental processes.

 

Camp Winnebago is a place where we intentionally create the time and setting for imaginative play. Literally, every day campers have the open space to play and socialize within a safe/supervised yet unstructured time period. There is openness to this time that allows mixing of age groups and access to and incredibly broad range of activities. Campers create games, navigate social dynamics, interact with nature and explore their power and identity within the world as an individual. This unique experience allows boys to develop a deeper confidence in their ability to function autonomously. According to both alumni and parents, the experience has a profound and positive affect on campers that stay with them for a lifetime.

A Marshmallow in hand…

Posted by: Ej Kerwin | Jan 13, 2016 | Uncategorized | No Comments »

Psychologist Walter Mischel conducted the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment in the late 1960’s. This experiment focused on delayed gratification. In the study Mischel offered children one marshmallow if they would like to eat it immediately and two marshmallows if they could wait (unsupervised) 15 minutes before eating it. In over 600 children who took part in the experiment, a minority ate the marshmallow immediately. Of those who attempted to delay, one-third deferred gratification long enough to get the second marshmallow.

Camper refining pottery skills

Camper refining pottery skills

This portion of the experiment validated what anyone who interacts with children knows, delayed gratification is a trait which most children struggle with.  The experiment was filmed, you can literally see children struggle to stave off their impulses. They squirm, wiggle, kick and even cover their eyes to avoid their impulse to give in to their tendencies. But, in the end over two-thirds of the children in the study were unable to wait 15 minutes for the second marshmallow.

The most interesting portion of this research project involved ongoing testing years and even decades into the future. Mischel found that the children who managed to control their impulses tended to have better life outcomes, as measured by SAT scores, educational attainment, body mass index (BMI), and other life measures.  This research indicates that helping children develop the ability to manage their impulses is a skill, which may help them in numerous areas of their lives.

Camp is an experience where children, often for the first time, experiment with their autonomy and begin to develop a sense of self outside the hemisphere of their family unit. Boys at camp manage impulses of their own character and begin to develop an understanding of the benefits of taking into account the needs of their peers and the greater camp community.  Campers participate in activities such as archery, riflery and canoeing where establishing safety takes precedence over jumping right in. Camp teaches boys that taking the time to build a solid foundation of safety allows a deeper freedom when developing and exploring a new skill or activity.

At Camp Winnebago we teach and role model impulse control in our activities and social interactions. We extrapolate the importance of the skill by naming it, helping them understand how it is useful in the moment, and how it has the potential to make a positive impact in their lives in other realms as well.  We role model to campers by staying patient with this process and understand that the development and refining of traits like patience are taught through repetition in a longer span of time.

 

So, although eating your s’more immediately sounds nice, waiting that extra fifteen minutes and adding the second marshmallow may just be worth the wait!